When I was a kid I dreamed of going to sleep-away camp. That's where it all happened. Whatever monumental or even somewhat meaningful thing that was going to happen to you in your young life, required a backdrop of campfire sing-alongs, compulsory activities— involving macrame and demonstrations of athletic inferiority, and matching shirts with some bastardized word taken from a native North American language strewn across your chest. And though the name implied as much, these things seemed to have very little, if anything, to do with sleep.
I knew this to be true, but resigned myself to the fact that I would never experience such wonders. For one thing, it was financially and logistically impossible for my family. Parents had to work— for the essentials, not extras—and younger siblings had to be looked after. Even if it had been a possibility, I don't know that I could have followed through. I had a hard enough time with the occasional sleep-over, being done and ready to return to my own home and own bed before the lights were even out. I wouldn't have done well at sleep-away camp, but the idea of it was so powerful that twenty-some years later it caused me to pack up my family and head us off to the Catoctin Mountains for four days and nights of a homeschool family sleep-away camp. Yes, such a thing does exist.
There were no matching shirts nor compulsory anything, and even the campfire sing-along got rained out on the last night, but we managed to make our own meaning. Adam called it Bike and Scooter World because with sixty children and paved paths winding through the dormitories and common spaces of the large camp area, what else would it be? For me it was, Flirtation with Communal Living because of the shared responsibilities, group meals, and the fact that you were just as likely to be keeping an eye on or helping out a kid that was not yours as you were your own.
Each family was responsible for cooking dinner two nights and cleaning the kitchen two nights. Our dishes, which were chosen for their ease of preparation and transportability were somewhat disappointing.The baked sweet potatoes and homegrown salad (which ended up looking really plain next to the vichyssoise) and vegetarian chili (which was hearty and flavorful on Saturday night when we made it at home, but watery and slightly charred after being defrosted and reheated on Wednesday night) were kind of embarrassing, especially because we like to think ourselves pretty capable in a kitchen. Overall, I was very pleased with the food, which was mostly vegetarian with a fair amount of vegan.
The setting was lovely— very green, very tranquil (when there wasn't a kid flying past you on a scooter,) with open spaces and secluded nooks. The weather mild and pretty cooperative, except for two rainy nights and a brief hailstorm, which was kind of cool. There were plenty of activities scheduled for those times when scootering, biking and generally wandering, without the impositions of adult anxieties and expectations, got to be old; which was never for my children. Some of the most memorable offerings were: sushi-making, rock-painting, friendship bracelet knotting, morning hikes, yoga, a variety show, and the ever-popular "Capture the Flag."
There were some bumps and bruises, literal and figurative. Like Sol wiping out on his bike attempting a stunt on a course the children dubbed "The Devil's Pass." Also, those ten minutes when Luna went missing and, after searching the entire camp, we finally found her playing in the van with her doppleganger. For me, it was shaking the feeling that I was someone's date at a massive family reunion. Most of the families there had known each other for years and that kind of intimacy can often resemble exclusivity, even among the best-intentioned, (I have been guilty of this,) but there was very little of that. In fact, I can't say when I've been around a more welcoming group of people.
There was the added bonus of being the only black girl at the party, which is not a new experience for me, but each time a surprise. (I am relearning my balancing techniques as I familiarize myself with the homeschooling communities in D.C. and its surrounding suburbs, belonging to one homeschooling support group for black families and one homeschooling group that does not specify, but seems to attract mostly white families— maybe because of the unschooling bent?) There is another homeschooling family camp in August, sponsored by African American Unschooling, that I'm seriously considering attending.
One thing that I am learning about "learning as you go," or "learning all the time," or "life learning," or whatever you call what it is that we are doing— this taking our education into our own hands and shaping it into what works best for our family— is that we are rarely at home. We are freed up to wander as far and as frequently as we like. As Sol once observed, "We homeschool, but we are hardly ever at home." One of those great ironies; that and the one about sleep-away camp.